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What I can do to not feel lonely?
How to be more optimistic when everything goes wrong?
How I can have more confidence and overcome my fears? How I can have total confidence to make my dreams come true?
TV screen lights up and Verónica de Andrés show: "I speak of love because I lived most of my life in fear. I grew up in a little family emotionally stable, my parents did not live long enough to meet my emotional needs. At 17 years, I was an orphan. I grew up in a country (Argentina) economically very unpredictable. A country where one day you can have a beautiful home, and the next day you can lose everything. " Speaking in fluent English, which helped him to be understood in the five continents over the last twenty years of lectures, courses and seminars on self-esteem, education, motivation and emotional intelligence. Total confidence is the movie she stars in and which sums up his knowledge, supported by an MA in Education from Oxford Brookes University, a title of Lady of Grace of the Order of St John of Malta and its status as an international speaker, coach, educator and author specializing in personal growth.
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Throughout our lives, we acquire new knowledge, at school, college, work-, however, one of the most difficult is learning to know oneself, how is for you this journey of self? Self-knowledge involves three points: first, be self-conscious. For this is very important to use emotional intelligence. When we use it, we become "thinkers with heart", ie use emotions to guide the right, but in turn I reason with my emotions, not let me take possession of them. Emotions are good counselors, but bad owners! Second, have a proper assessment of self: knowing your strengths, value and use. Of no use to the world that have a light and hide under the table! Furthermore, if we turn on our light, we will spend our lives looking at the light of another. Value is also aware of the areas for improvement, a job that lasts until our last days, We can always improve! Finally, is known to have confidence in yourself, that is, be safe on the assessment we make of ourselves, be making the necessary adjustments to go becoming who we want to be. To do this we need to trust in our abilities.
What happens when the confidence is low? How does this affect human relationships? When we look in and the image we form of ourselves is poor (as a man / woman, friend, parent, student), we show possibly defensive, inflexible, hard, closed, insecure, shy, prone to blame others for what happens to us, hard to accept our mistakes, with many fears and insecurities that block our personal and professional development, and can not love ourselves. The good news is that we can cut this vicious circle and become virtuous. That's what we teach in our movie.
Is it possible to learn to love? Indeed, we have to learn anything. We have to "unlearn" remember when we were kids. All babies are born with the same action you tude, with you tude ac loving, trusting, harmonious. Are everything.
They are born that way. We are born that way. That is within us. And then what happens? As we grow and begin to address the educational system, often through repeated responses of significant others, started getting the message: "You're not good enough ...." and so we begin to lose confidence. The more wounds have more layers of fear we are about our sacred center. So what do we have to unlearn? We have to unlearn the fear! Fear is purchased! Not ours. When we started to remove the layers of fear that we accumulated over the life-no matter how many, "we are able to trust again. As the center of confidence that I call "sacred" I am convinced that God gave us, still there and you can learn to meet it again. and from there, to live a better life and create positive changes in everything we do. That is the epitome of love: love is the absence of fear, the oxygen of the soul, learning and motor fuel for change.
How do we know if we are living in the paradigm of love or fear? There is a formula easy to remember: 80% and 20%. If you spend most of our time, 80% focused on what does not work in our weaknesses, what we lack in what is wrong, and only 20% of what we really want and dream, We live in what sociologists have called "the culture of deficit." When we reverse the formula, sociologists say that we live in "the culture of abundance." Abundance of love, flow, creativity, happiness. How to live in the paradigm of love? By focusing on our achievements, focusing on our dreams.
On the one hand, young idealistic, full of dreams and ambitions, and, second, adults who have "overcome" this stage and before this "naive", they shake the head, with some contempt and compassion, they are already have disappointed the world and dreams: how to recover those ideals? These people, who may look incredulous, are those who most need to believe in their dreams. I believe that all adults have a young idealist. May be numb, but it's there. enough to recall what Margaret Mead said, a great anthropologist who studied all his life different cultures, "Never doubt that a small group of people going and thinking undert persons can change the world, in fact the only thing that ever has . Think of the great dreamers, maybe those dreams began at the age of youth, ideals, but those who make a difference and those who have left their mark are those who have the courage to persevere, to continue throughout his life, to pursue their dreams. and generally, they succeeded, because his dream was tied to a higher purpose, to an ideal. That is what keeps the dream alive and what makes you go through the fear, to stand when "fail" when the plan is not working ...
Is it possible to trust in oneself after a loss? all depends on how you look at the defeat. When things go as we expect or want, we can look at this situation as a defeat. However, we learn that coaching is not so much what happens to us but how we interpret it. It is our interpretation that makes a difference. Compared to the same fact, some may say "this is a defeat, a failure," and others may say "is a learning opportunity." and from there grow. Indeed, the main lessons learned are when we are wrong, if we can immediately ask what did I learn? Consider an interesting case, as was that of Thomas Edison, who invented the electric light bulb. Do you know how many defeats and failures that had to do it? more than 3000 bugs. However, he never considered errors, but "discoveries." and this interpretation, no doubt, was what enabled him to endure to reach the goal. The longer live in the paradigm of love, the less time we lose scaring meet the challenges. Even when a little voice inside me saying: "It's hard, I could not ar to s", I know that I can say, "Shh, hush! Well I will anyway. "
............................................... .................................................. ............. THE FIRST FILM WAS A DREAM Florence Andrew (eldest daughter Veronica) and Lucas palm producers and directors are the total Trust, a film which combines documentary and videoseminario, 72 minutes with inspirational quotes from wise men of humanity and true stories. The performance included two years of film production and postproduction, a team of 20 people, creating a soundtrack (Jon Schmidt), images captured in different parts of the world and a message that, from August 2008, began travel on five continents. "It started like a dream. We wanted more people to regain trust in themselves, that the message reached every corner of the world. We wanted a product that will remind the human soul with love and trust that everything is possible. With all these ideas in mind, we said, 'Let's film' " Florence tells. "When Veronica finished a course or conference, people came by asking: 'How I can do to get this from my family and my colleagues?". Thus it was that we decided to make the film. And sleep to the fact we had to put into practice what the film teaches! "Adds Lucas.
TEXT: Pilar Santillan
